April 15, 2017 at 8:30 pm #456
I am looking for some advice, my son is being bullied in school. I rang the School about it last year and the vice prinl spoke to some boys from the cl.They all reported back to my son that they were told his parents rang in and why did he snitch, one child said he was told by the vice prinl not to make a joke with my son cause he can’t take It, also a teacher in the School called my son a muppet and I also complained about this. Well this year the same has been going on, I rang to speak to his cl teacher and also requested the schools anti bullying policy, the prinl rang me back three days later and said that he had an idea my son was being bullied he spoke with some of his teachers and he said ‘my son can be child like in his communication with his peers and can sometimes leave himself open for people to pick on him’ He also referred to his delayed physical development. I am so cross and upset at his atude a bit of advice would be much appreciated. Thanks
April 18, 2017 at 10:36 am #542
I think that you should request a face-to-face meeting with the prinl to discuss how you are not happy with how the situation has been addressed. It is my suggestion that you and the prinl devise a plan action using the schools anti bullying policy procedures, always keeping in mind that the school protects your son throughout this process. The school has a duty of care towards every pupil, and all reports of bullying should be followed up. Please allow the school some time to address the matter and also expect progress reports and feedback. If you are not happy write a letter to the board of management detailing your experience with the school.
As far as your son’s well-being is concerned, research shows that friends are the greatest protection against school bullying; it would be beneficial to promote these where possible. Your son may wish to speak to the schools guidance counselor for support to discuss what he has experienced in a safe e.
If you would like further advice please contact the anti-bullying centre on 01-884 2012.
September 23, 2017 at 6:41 am #794
I am not an expert in anti-bullying hence the following is based on experience rather than research.
Record everything- in my experience Schools management system are moderately corrupt & if at a later date you need to take this further it’s vital to have everything recorded. Did you get policy, did the school consult with the Parents in its formulation, and what stategy does the school employ to deal with bullying? I believe Restorative Justice strategy is currently the best but I am open to correction.
I perceive that the Principal could be correct in what he is saying however these are a red herrings as what relevance has this to the fact your son is being bullied. Moreover to me it indicates to me he’s not listening or concerned. What he has done is transfer the blame back onto your son. A recent public example of this is the George Hook incident whereby the victims of rape where to blame for their behaviour.
I feel for you and your son because essentially in this scenario you are powerless. I would recommend following through on what you have been advised and if you don’t have any result do as they have done in the National School in Louth vote with you feet, leave the school. There is a saying CIA – change what you can, influence what you can, and accept things you cannot change and given School Management is all powerful there is nothing you can do if they don’t want to sort the problem out. Good luck
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