February 2, 2017 at 2:58 pm #454
Really like your website and well done. A lot of bullying issues are coming from adults, accepted behavior by children and replicated. As a coach I am bullied by pushy parents everyday who are only interested in their child to prove how great parents and supportive they are compare to other parents. This parenting compeion burn out our children, bring them to dislike “leisure or compeive activities” and do not promote the social fundamental of sports fairness. It’s more a public display of power and intimidation toward coaches and other parents. Dealing with those aggressive people is hard work especially when they call or email you outside your duty hours without respecting your private life and not following the proper channels of communication. Children are not born bully they became one from bad example. Tackling bully adults within the community environments is neglected. Accepting bad social behavior is allowed, where adults can complain about everything and get even compensation for it. Any advice? I am sure will help a lot of people like me.
February 3, 2017 at 9:54 am #541
You are absolutely correct that bullying is a learned behaviour and most certainly one that can be learned from parents and siblings. And unfortunately community bullying is a difficult one to deal with because of the inherent lack of structure which can often exist, and which makes it more problematic to deal with.
Are you a working through a school or club? If you are working through any kind of formal structure, then it needs to be availed of. The organisation you are volunteering with needs to take a hand, even to the point of calling a meeting with the parents of the children that are being coached, Or distributing rules of conduct surrounding coaches, including hours of availability as to when they can be contacted, a list of negative behaviours that will not be accepted, and a strong reminder that both coaches and parents are role models, and how they behave impacts on the children.
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