February 8, 2017 at 7:39 am #407
I am at my wits end my 10 year old boy is being bullied at school by a boy who used to be his friend. The boy ridicules and mocks my boy in front of the other boys. My boy says very little about it because he is worried i will go into the school. What should I do. I am heartbroken he has become sad and withdrawn. Any advice would be welcome
February 8, 2017 at 10:35 am #410
I am sorry to hear about the situation you and your son are experiencing. I would firstly advise you to make a appointment to speak to the cl teacher, discussing in detail what has been occurring. As you said the boys both used to be friends there may be a opportunity to restore the relationship that they had. The teacher may not be aware of the change that has occurred in the clroom.
Teachers are trained to deal with bullying behaviours and if it cannot be resolved by the teacher in the clroom, the next step is to see the principle. As always the National Anti Bullying Research and Resource Centre is available to support parents, teachers, prinls and schools if they need further advice or supports. – The centre may be contacted at 01-884 2012, emailed at firstname.lastname@example.org or here on http://www.tacklebullying.ie
February 21, 2017 at 10:29 am #411
I imagine it is so difficult to see your son in this situation. He feels hurt and vulnerable and for a parent that is very hard to sit with. One of the first things as a parent is to find a time where he can talk to you about how he is feeling and for you to ‘actively listen’. This is where you help him to tell the story about how he is feeling without you trying to ‘fix it’. Do this in his time and do your best not to judge him or the situation but show you are there to support him. Help him to look at possible solutions; talking to the teacher, playing with other friends, focusing on his own strengths. But always at the end it is important that he understands reporting this behaviour is about stopping the behaviour not about getting his ‘friend’ into trouble.
To support yourself, the National Parents Council have a very good helpline to be added to the information already submitted here. Their website is http://www.npc.ie Tel: 01 887 4477. They are there to listen.
Finally, do your best not to treat your son like a ‘victim’ but help him to see that he will find strengths through this experience and with support he will grow and build resilience.
September 23, 2017 at 6:53 am #795
I am not an expert in bullying hence the following is only an opinion. Firstly I definitely would endorse comments about the NPC they are passionate about what they do.
I would suggest researching resilience. In life there is good and bad things happening. We have no idea what is going on in his ex-friends life and he might be having a traumatic time at home. He’s taking this behaviour into school and subjecting others to it. So, best to avoid him or if not feasible be nice to him as they say in Frozen “let it go”. Good luck with it, please do check out resilience as there will be bullied in all areas of life. Schools because of the desire to create uniformity bullying is particularly rife.
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