The Role of Parents in Preventing Bullying and Cyberbullying

by Sameer Hinduja

Parents and guardians have always had a powerful influence on the behaviors of children, while research is clear that peers tend to have more sway during the teenage years. That said, our new research published in the Journal of Child and Family Studies identifies that certain positive parenting practices have a strong effect on both school bullying and cyberbullying among middle- and high-schoolers in the US. These practices include a surplus of warmthautonomy/support, and structure and a deficit of rejectioncoercion, and chaos.

I’m currently the parent of two toddlers, and I struggle sometimes with warmth and affection (when they are driving me crazy – as toddlers can naturally do) and with determining the most effective disciplinary structure to teach respect, responsibility, and selflessness. But all of my work with teens has made me really self-aware and in need of constant recalibrating to determine what will lead to them making good choices as they grow up. It’s really hard, but the research speaks loud and clear: how we parent really does matter. If done well, it increases the likelihood of prosocial behaviors while decreasing negative choices by our children. And that’s my primary goal. Let’s dive into what we found in our latest academic paper.

A consistent theme uncovered through decades of social science research is that parenting practices have a meaningful differentiating effect on the lives of youth.1-3 Specifically, “positive parenting” is ideal – and is based on the best interest of the child and involves nurturing, empowering, encouraging, shepherding, and boundary-setting to enable their full development.4 These aspects of positive parenting have been linked to increased feelings of relatedness, better social and emotional functioning, and increased healthy and autonomous behavioral choices.5-8 As you think about how you were raised by your parents/guardians, this makes sense, right? These qualities at home also buffer against personal (e.g., emotional and psychological) and social (e.g., misbehaving peers, media, culture) pressures that might seek to push youth towards harming others and/or harming themselves.9-11

Three Dimensions of Positive Parenting

Over the years, scholars have identified three bilateral dimensions of positive parenting. First, warmth/rejection examines the extent to which parents are caring, affectionate, and generally bonded to the child (e.g., how responsive a parent is to a child). High warmth is associated with close emotional connections and acceptance, while high rejection often involves unhelpful criticism, derision, and outright hostility.12

Second, autonomy support/coercion identifies the ways children are able to develop into their own through independent thinking and problem solving (e.g., how demanding a parent is to a child). Parents who provide high autonomy support allow their children to express themselves and make informed behavioral choices within an age-appropriate framework of scaffolding.13 Highly coercive parents are overly controlling and dictatorial, demanding compliance without compromise or thorough explanation.14, 15

Third, structure/chaos examines the extent to which parents set clear expectations and consistently enforce rules (e.g., how much structure a parent provides to a child). High structure is evidenced by parents who provide their children with a regular routine involving certain supports to encourage and reinforce positive behavior, and who engage in predictable and logical discipline when expectations are not met.15 High chaos, conversely, involves an environment marked by capriciousness, disorganization, undependability, and erratic guidance, presence, and involvement.16, 17

Without getting into the specifics of our sample, methodology, and data analyses (see our paper for details), here are our high-level findings:

  • Approximately 21% of US youth have bullied someone else at school in at least one or more ways in the last 30 days.
  • Approximately 5% of US youth have bullied someone else online in at least one or more ways in the last 30 days.
  • Positive parenting in the form of warmth, structure, and autonomy/support were associated with lower both bullying and cyberbullying to a statistically significant degree (meaning the relationship is not random but based on patterns found among the youth studied).
  • Negative parenting in the form of rejection, chaos, and coercion were associated with higher levels of bullying and cyberbullying to a statistically significant degree.
  • Parental influence has a stronger impact on cyberbullying as compared to traditional bullying.

So, where do we go from here? What can we do with these findings?

To begin, it is clear that positive parenting in the form of warmth, autonomy/support, and structure can prevent bullying behaviors at school and online while rejection, coercion, and chaos increases the likelihood of those harmful behaviors. They must be present and prioritized in homes, and instruction/guidance from societal institutions and culture can help make them known and be applied. To be sure, it was curious that parenting seems to matter more to constrain cyberbullying when compared to school bullying. This may be related to related to Travis Hirschi’s18 concept of “virtual supervision” wherein youth consider the responses of their parents even when they are not directly being supervised. This hesitance to disobey or make wrongful choices is because the parents may later find out about them, and the child does not want to risk upsetting those with whom they are strongly bonded.

These results directly inform other actionable strategies to assist parents and guardians. Generally speaking, parental education and training through partnerships with the school can be valuable to prevent traditional bullying,19, 20 while sending written material home,19, 21 the hosting of parent events by the school,22 and providing online resources23 can help parents grow in their awareness to prevent cyberbullying. Family counseling24, 25 and formal programs like parent management training26 and functional family therapy27, 28 can help address long-standing problematic parent-child relations.

Parental Monitoring Software and Cyberbullying: A Caveat

Also important to any discussion of parenting and cyberbullying is the matter of technological controls. Third-party software is available for all types of devices to perform monitoring and tracking functions of user activity, and thereby can provide parents with an idea of the types of content they are creating (and receiving).29 In addition, most devices have “Settings” which can enable restrictions on screen time hours, app usage, and other controls to manage what a child can do online (and with whom). Software has proven useful in decreasing a child’s exposure to sexual content,30 but not to harassment,31 and so parents shouldn’t download and install monitoring software under the assumption that it is a panacea. That said, it can help keep a parent or guardian “in the know” on some level.

When we give talks to parent groups, Justin and I continue to emphasize the following disclaimer: if parents choose to surrepti­tiously monitor the online activities of their children, they eventually will stumble upon something that raises concern, and will use it to confront their child. However, if the child did not know they were being monitored, it may very well undermine any foundation of trust that existed between the two parties.32 To prevent this, it is recommended that parents openly communicate to their children if they will be using monitoring software simply in order to keep them safe as they navigate online, and most importantly, co-create the governing rules in the household.33 Furthermore, parents should explain that if their child makes mature and responsible decisions over time, they will be given more freedoms and earn more privacy.34 Calm, healthy, and nonjudgmental dialogue with a child about what the pros and cons of social media, gaming, and other online activities sets a tone that invites continued open communication about anything negative that might occur, and consequently can keep them from going underground and hiding their experiences out of fear and shame.35, 36

For us, here’s what it comes down to: active mediation (talking about their child’s technology use), restrictive mediation (setting rules and using software to impose restrictions as needed), and co-using (being involved in their online activities to some degree) hold the most promise.37-39 All of this said, more research is required to measure their specific impact in reducing online risks.40 We’ll continue to keep you updated as to what we (and the rest of the field) discover in our efforts to equip and empower parents and guardians to optimally raise their children in this technology-suffused landscape.

***If you are not able to access our article online, please email us and we’ll send you a copy for your educational purposes.

By Sameer Hinduja

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